Gone are the days when the groom’ waits at the alter, gas-bagging with his boys while the ‘bride’ walks down the aisle with her peeps…
Well, they’re not gone, but they’re not so much of a given anymore; especially now that same-sex weddings have stormed to the forefront of the industry.
It’s been a long-running discussion I have with couples, even before the law changed, because I just wanted people to understand they have choices…
Now, thanks to the yes vote; it’s more prevalent than ever.
Some folk don’t want to do the traditional entrance because either:
A) They don’t want to be ‘given away’
B) They want to support each other in that scary walk
C) They just want to shake things up a bit!
Whatever your reason, let’s explore the options….
1) Canine company
Get your very best mate to walk you. The only thing better than a dog is a dog in a bow tie or teeny tiny little veil!
Things rarely go smoothly but I can guarantee that everyone’s hearts will be well and truly melted by the time they (hopefully) reach the alter.
2) One in front of the other
You both hang out behind the scenes, pepping and egging each other on.
Party 1 comes down first, with or without their peeps, followed by Party 2.
You can relax together before kick-off and avoid small talk with guests who love to ask if you’re nervous… which invariably makes you more nervous…
However, Party 1 tends to feature in photos a bit more than Party two.
Some might consider this a pro…
Vince & Daniel
Vince leads the way, followed closely by Daniel as they make their way to me.
Photo – Guest
3) Side by side
Both parties hang-10 while your celebrant does the intro spiel then the music kicks into gear and its show time!
You grab each other’s hand and walk in as equals… after all, this gig is about you forming an even more solid gang of two, so what better way to represent that fact?!
Just like the previous option, you get to hangout together before the show starts, which is nice, and the photos look awesome!!!!
On the other hand, you don’t have that ‘first look’ kind of vibe as one walks towards the other.
4) Circle action
Everybody stands in a giant circle, including yourselves and your celebrant. I wouldn’t recommend this one for more than 30 people, it’s too difficult to arrange but what a delightful symbol of equality to all in attendance.
5) Everybody in together
You both enter the space at the same time as your guests.
Your celebrant can either be with you all and lead the way, or alternatively can be waiting in the space.
6) Mingle then just do it!
This one’s also great for smaller crowds and sets a very casual feel to the ceremony.
Perfect for those that don’t want too much build-up or fuss.
7) Come together from either side
I had two brides once start at either side of the guests down the back and walk towards each other, gathering a flower from each member of their waiting wedding party as they got closer and closer.
It totally killed two birds with one delightful stone.
They met in the middle, ready to walk down together, and had bouquets by the time they met.
8) Guests enter last
How about the idea that you two hang out together on the spot marked X and then your guests come and join the party. It’s nice because you’ve both had a chance to settle into what’s about to happen and had some control of the vibe beforehand.
Super casual and zero-tension.
9) The rainbow crossing
How about stepping over a rainbow, or walking along a rainbow as the aisle or for the sake of photos, have a rainbow underneath you when you tie the knot? How fun!!!!!
10) A la Traditionale
Party 1 waits behind the scenes, the other is up at the alter either with or without a support-network of peeps.
Party 1 waits for the house-keeping rant and crowd warming from the celebrant, the music starts and hey presto, they’re walking towards us… there’s no turning back now!
Watching each other as you get closer and closer is downright thrilling… however, it tends to set a precedent of gender roles, but that’s ok too!
Of course, there are likely a myriad of other options out there too.
So, there are a few ideas for you. The main point is, don’t get restricted by traditional ideals, do it like Fleetwood Mac suggested: Go your own way!!!!!